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|Written by Miss Smartypants|
|Monday, 18 July 2011 00:00|
Dear Miss Smartypants,
How do you apologize for heteronormativity? Earlier today I realized that I was heteronormative with a new acquaintance a couple months back (we were playing FMK). Though we're friend-ish now, I still don't know if I made the right call to begin with. Obviously it's not important, but I feel weird about assuming. What should I do about it?
Not Assuming Anything About You Here
Dear Mind Your Ps & Qs,
Let it lie. Let it lie is pretty much the advice that everyone should take in most situations. Here's the thing: what could you do? When you were heteronormative (for the uninitiated, assuming that everything exists along your straight world axis), that was your acquaintance/friend-ish's chance to correct your assumption. So either this person didn't because you assumed correctly or because Friend-ish doesn't want to play the personals with an acquaintance. If you bring it up now, you are just going to look weird. Store this incident with a mental note not to do it again, and move on.
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