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|Written by Miss Smartypants|
|Monday, 02 November 2009 00:00|
Dear Miss Smartypants,
My job has recently placed me several states away from my girlfriend for the next few months. This isn't the first time this has happened and it won't be the last. It's just the kind of job I have. The thing that makes this trip different is that I've developed an attraction to a female co-worker here. I haven't gone out of my way here, avoiding situations where we are alone together, not sending out any signals or compliments, but it's the kind of job where you spend pretty much all your time with your co-workers. I like her and I think she likes me, too. There's just something between us. I've been trying to put the co-worker out of my head, and it's not working. I'm in serious danger of falling for her. What do I do?
Love Sick on the Job Site
Dear Office Romeo,
Here's what you didn't tell me: how are things with your girlfriend? Aside from the fact that you have one, you don't give me much to go on. How long have you been together? How serious is your relationship? Do you have kids together? I wonder if maybe you didn't want me to have all the facts about your relationship because you don't want to think about them. Straight off, let me tell you this much: don't cheat. Don't tell this other woman how you feel or try to find out her feelings by some other method. If your feelings for your co-worker are genuine, you need to end your relationship first. And if they're not - if they're something you've exaggerated to make yourself feel better about wanting out of a dissatisfying relationship or if you're unhappy in your relationship and looking for a distraction - leave your co-worker out of it. Figure out what's really going on here and then decide your next move.
If you should deal double with her, truly it were an ill thing,